I posted a little video on decision-making.

About how hard it is to make ‘the right choice’ when we always have to work with almost zero information and plenty of assumptions (because that’s the truth, plain and simple).

How we have no clue about the connections between everything in the universe and STILL expect our decisions to be brilliant just the same.

The video was about how difficult it is to be human.

How we can punish ourselves afterwards, and how that can become a painful habit.

‘Never good enough, always failing.’

I ended the recording with the suggestion to be kind to yourself and to realize that we all try very hard and do our best.

It was a sweet little message, I guess.

Inspirational.

And ten minutes later, after seeing it online, I wondered if it could have been better.

Five minutes after that I was SURE it could have been better, it SHOULD have been better, especially since it hadn’t harvested any likes yet.

You see?

Irony in motion.

It’s really very sad, in a way.

And it’s also pretty funny, somehow.

Because it’s so incredibly predictable.

The Machine of Shame, Endless Guilt, and Not Enough.

So do me and the rest of the world a favor,

and please

please

please

be kind to yourself.

And if you don’t, if you forget, if it seems inappropriate, if it’s just too hard:

Be kind afterwards.

It’s never too late, okay?

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(Photo by @marekpiwnicki, for Unsplash)