Many people say they want their lives to drastically change.

Or at least a substantial part of it.

They feel stuck, they feel like they’re wasting precious time, and they simply can’t seem to find the way out, or the way in.

And they no longer want that.

Makes total sense.

But what always strikes me is how little we actually know about change.

What it feels like.

What it entails.

What it would do for our daily lives.

It’s an incredibly abstract thing, of course, but when it happens, it’s a million times more impactful than we could imagine.

If we reflect on a better life, a more fulfilling life that will be the result of massive change, it seems like we’re looking at a certain image where things are different than before.

It’s quite factual.

Not emotional.

We say things like ‘I’d love to be able to just do what I want’, but we don’t really know what that means.

I guess we want change because we don’t like what’s going on right now.

We want change, but because it’s so intangible, it has no real value in the present moment.

For me, this is very clear when people come to me with this big question, this bold goal of radical transformation, and freak out when they hear that it’s probably gonna cost them a couple of thousand bucks.

If you really think that’s an outrageous amount of money, you simply have no clue what profound change means, what the real impact will be, and what it will do for your existence.

It’s not that I blame people or ridicule them, because it’s very clear to me that it’s almost impossible to get a feel for how that changed life would impact them.

There’s simply no way of knowing when the only thing you do is think about it.

It seems that many people want change because it feels necessary and tempting, but after that everything becomes entirely blank.

This ‘new life’ mostly sounds like a thing that’s better than the present thing, a compelling but vague concept, and not something that’s actually attainable.

It’s as if we can imagine a 5% improvement, maybe 10%, but not 50%, or, let alone, 300%, because we have no way of creating a real sense of what that would mean.

As if our present lives are simply too restricted and don’t allow us the capacity to truly imagine happier, much lighter, more joyful, and way more satisfying, and make those things come to life.

Maybe you can compare it to falling in love, something you can read about and think about and dream about all you want, but which will only make sense the moment it strikes you and makes you lose your mind in the most delicious way.

Most of us simply can’t feel what is possible, what could be waiting out there for us, because we’re stuck in our old ways.

That, automatically and logically, makes it really hard to get a glimpse of a more expansive way of living.

We don’t know what we don’t know, and it’s very difficult to feel what we’ve never felt.

So, as a coach, one of the hardest but also coolest challenges is to help people consciously feel what they may have never felt before, and guide them to a direct experience of something they don’t even know is possible.

It’s like exploring what’s around the corner before turning it.

And helping them fall in love with life, on the spot.

That’s the fine art of potential.

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