Ah, yes.
The Ultimate Way of Coaching.
Well (spoiler alert): there’s no such thing.
No specific way.
No method.
No magic trick.
The ONLY thing that matters, is that your intervention helps people change their lives in a profound, positive way.
The content of that is completely up for grabs.
It should be whatever it is that makes it powerful and unforgettable.
That results in tangible changes, in a richer experience of life, more autonomy and an inclination to enjoy life rather than hide from it.
That makes it comfortably you.
It doesn’t matter if you talk constantly, or if you are silent all the time.
It doesn’t matter if you have a coach yourself (which seems to be the ultimate and non-negotiable requirement in the coaching world, a holy mantra that never really gets challenged).
It doesn’t matter if you go upstream or downstream or no-stream, if you whisper or shout, if you talk about Sydney Banks or Little Red Riding Hood, angels or neurological paths.
If you get the job done, if people can truly, genuinely say that your connection has helped them see things in new and helpful ways, then you’re good to go.
NO method, NO specific strategy, NO words are necessary and obligatory.
You can coach sitting on a rock or jumping up and down.
You can sing and dance or just stare at a client, silently.
You can tell them the truth or wait for insights to drop.
You can have 25 diplomas and certifications or none.
You can wear a suit or nothing at all (something that you might consider to mention before the first session, though).
You can Zoom or Skype or phone or be SO close to them they can almost feel your eyebrows on their forehead.
You can serve or surf.
You can say ‘it’s never about me!’ or you can think the exact opposite.
And you can coach with a banana in your ear.
It doesn’t matter.
It really doesn’t.
People ultimately don’t give a shit about how you help them, as long as you do.
As long as their lives get significantly better, and they find some magical momentum that will carry them past their old patterns.
As long as they start to feel powerful and hopeful and joyful because of your conversations, and because of who realize they are.
But don’t take my word for this.
See for yourself.
It’s the ultimate way.
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www.marnix.coach