Almost every time I talk to someone in a coaching setting, especially in the beginning, the topic of ‘separate realities’ will come up.

It’s an incredibly important and interesting thing to talk about (and to keep mentioning), because it explains so many things on a human level.

But it’s also incredibly easy to overlook and dismiss.

Why?

Well, because we can only see our world.

And we do, every second of every day.

So even though we can understand and appreciate that fact to a certain extent (which can be incredibly helpful), we still only see our world.

That will never change.

That CAN’T change.

It’s how this amazing Circus on Planet Earth With Billions of Very Serious Clowns works.

There’s a different world for each of us.

Literally.

Even if you desperately wanted to see life through my eyes and have my experience, you couldn’t.

How would that work?

If I’d describe my experience of the world to you, even in a really detailed matter, you’d still end up with your personal take on that story.

Your eyes trying to be mine.

Nah.

We obviously use things like filters and preferences and ideologies to create whatever that big-ass event is we’re all living in, so that’s what we experience.

Our version.

We see what we see and we hear what we hear, and that’s it.

Our personal truth.

Which feels and looks like THE world.

So if you talk specifically about your world, and I listen to that, those words and descriptions will be instantly substituted by my versions and definitions of what you’re telling me, my exclusive take on that, the moment you open your mouth.

We will never REALLY understand the other person and their struggle because we simply don’t live in their world.

But that doesn’t have to be a problem, and in many cases, it isn’t.

We have a lot of smart solutions and ideas to explain and work around the discrepancies.

Seeing different worlds is not commonly regarded as seeing different worlds: we just call it ‘having opinions’, ‘preferences’, or ‘being biased’, and we’re used to that.

Those are all perfect, or at least workable, explanations for what we will never truly understand.

What CAN happen, though, is a relaxation around the compelling truth that our personal world seems to present, and the option to stop taking that really seriously.

Doing so will reveal the only thing we really have in common, 100%.

Being an amazing creation within consciousness.

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(Photo for @jxndreas, for Unsplash)