When you’re a coach, people tend to ask you for advice.

Whether they’re your clients or random human beings emailing you, there will be questions about a broad variety of topics.

As a coach, you’re expected to know more than many others, and while that is definitely true on a specific level, it’s surely not true for everything.

One of those things is the future.

A pretty important, pretty big thing, even though it doesn’t really exist.

Most questions people have are about that future anyway (“What should I do with this”, “What is the best choice?”, “What if this happens?”, “How should I deal with this in order to get that?”) and the thing is: I know as much about that as they do.

Almost nothing.

Or, well, nothing, really.

My idea of the future is just as made up as yours.

It’s a mental construct, a web of ideas and predictions I believe in which serves as a blueprint or soothing plan.

Now I can definitely come up with answers to these practical questions, for sure.

There are ways.

I can guess, I can search within my history and experience, I can state the obvious, I can parrot the cool-sounding thing I just read in a blog, I can make up shit and look sincere while doing so, but none of those things have any true value.

They’re all hypothetical.

The thing, the reality is: I don’t know what you should do or what will happen if you do it or don’t do it.

I can’t say anything about the future which is not just an educated guess, and I have no idea what would be the right thing for you to do.

But who cares anyway?

What I DO know, at least consciously (unlike most people), is that life moves on anyway.

Always.

Stuff always gets resolved.

Decisions will be made.

Always.

And not knowing a solution in the morning doesn’t mean you won’t have a brilliant one in the afternoon.

Life provides, and it does so at the perfect moment.

Always.

Being deeply aware of that is worth much more than any ‘right’ answer to any question about the future.

Because from that more universal trust and realization all the answers and solutions and hints and insights you will ever need will arise.

So the only thing you really have to know, is that you don’t have to know.

It’s true!

It’s definitely not the specific thing people think they need when they ask for advice, but it’s way, WAY more powerful and way more helpful.

In other words (I know you like words):

You will know what to do in the future, in the future.

You will know, when you know.

Time will tell.

Really.

Always.

And when this simple truth starts to land in you, it will help you relax and prevent you from getting lost in rumination and doubts and self-judgment.

You will start to recognize the fact that you are divinely equipped to deal with life.

Always.

Trust me on this one.

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