{"id":48792,"date":"2023-04-26T12:03:35","date_gmt":"2023-04-26T12:03:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/?p=48792"},"modified":"2023-04-26T12:03:39","modified_gmt":"2023-04-26T12:03:39","slug":"the-power-to-be-free","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/2023\/04\/26\/the-power-to-be-free\/","title":{"rendered":"The power to be free."},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\u2018It\u2019s hard to be you\u2019, I told my client.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

And I meant it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We were walking in the forest and I was coaching him on his lost dreams, his dissolving zest for life, and the abundant aliveness he once possessed but somehow couldn\u2019t access anymore.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Familiar stuff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I know what it feels like to chronically suffer, I know what it means to your well-being when your days are filled with confusion and pain, hopelessness and frustration, and there doesn\u2019t seem to be a way out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all have experiences like that, and he was no exception.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He looked sad and lost, struggling to hold back his tears, while we were sitting on an elevated deck overlooking the wetlands with its hundreds of birds.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018It\u2019s hard to be you, incredibly hard and complicated\u2019, I said once more, \u2018\u2026 and that\u2019s why I am so confident about your healing\u2019.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018You\u2019ve been feeling like shit for years now, and although that might look like it makes you a lost cause, I see it from a completely different angle.\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I told him how, despite his chronic agony and lack of self-worth, he\u2019d still managed to build a career, have friends, be in a couple of romantic relationships, and kept fighting for his happiness in many different ways.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He became really good at his job, he tried a million things to feel better, and every day he went to bed and fell asleep, no matter how hard the day had been.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why don\u2019t we acknowledge that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We easily see what\u2019s wrong with us, but we don\u2019t use what that has given us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We see how disturbed we are, but we NEVER realize how strong it made us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are beyond powerful, yet we feel like the weakest creature in the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But if you feel like crap all the time, if you’re always depressed and constantly fight a habit, if you are anxiety-riddled and exhausted because of your high sensitivity, you\u2019ve been secretly building an atomic inner superpower.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Having a mess for a life is a sign of profound inner strength.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You may not have released it yet, but it\u2019s there.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Day after day you held on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Day after day you tried again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Day after day after day you lived with it and you didn\u2019t give up (although there were moments you\u2019d have liked to).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And so day after day you secretly created more resilience and more resourcefulness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite the fear.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite the lack of confidence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite not having a plan, a hunch, or even a bit of hope.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite the head full of brutal nonsense.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

THAT is what we\u2019re capable of.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We’re capable of living as deeply disturbed humans.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And hanging in there despite all that, is the result of a power beyond our comprehension.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do you know what can liberate you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s your unique and totally amazing capacity to be with pain and confusion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A capacity that, once acknowledged, can dissolve all the old ways, the old tricks, and the old habits that have been fucking you up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You ARE that capacity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you ready to use it for change?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

—<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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(Let me know if this resonates with you. Or let me know how much you disagree. Or we could skip all that and have a (virtual) walk in the forest. Let\u2019s make it amazing to be you! Mail me…<\/a>)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

—<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Photo by @lazycreekimages, for Unsplash)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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