{"id":48556,"date":"2023-02-26T11:28:44","date_gmt":"2023-02-26T11:28:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/?p=48556"},"modified":"2023-02-26T11:31:05","modified_gmt":"2023-02-26T11:31:05","slug":"breaking-free-from-namaste-numbness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/2023\/02\/26\/breaking-free-from-namaste-numbness\/","title":{"rendered":"Breaking free from namaste numbness."},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Spirituality is for lazy people.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

No, wait, let me rephrase that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Spirituality is a way to deny your true power.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hmm, I can do better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

‘Spirituality can be used to endlessly dwell in glorified passivity, instead of going for what you really want in all facets of life.’<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Okay, let’s take it from here.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How do I know this to be true?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because that\u2019s what I did and what I lived.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Aiming for divine transcendence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dreaming about blissful freedom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Painless and without confrontation, of course.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And, sure, in a way, it WAS hard work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The meditations, the journaling, the reading, the reflecting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The disappointment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Am I there yet?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Did I get rid of my humanness yet?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fuck me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the goal was never to have an amazing, limitless life filled with ridiculously cool things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The goal was to be continuously happy, safe, and absolutely passive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There was no ambition, no excitement, no real challenge IN the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It was like being alive but not feeling the whole damn thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Just this looooooong road toward freedom from agony.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No big plans, no crazy ideas, no crushing old limiting beliefs, and no reaching for the moon.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

None of that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It was Bypassing Deluxe and passive-aggressive humility.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Divine dullness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now, am I saying there are no people who are genuinely just interested in being content, in a truly simple life, in living a peaceful existence, and nothing more?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Of course not, they exist, for sure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s just that it can be truly liberating to find out if that\u2019s REALLY you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I thought I was.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I pretended to be that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But only because it suited the scared me, the deeply hurt me, the safety-seeking me, the me who thought he was truly incapable of dreaming big and getting even bigger.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Until I found out that those were the REAL reasons for my resistance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hey, it\u2019s your life!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you want to keep playing on the level of softly bubbling contentment, and if the humble \u2018it is what it is\u2019 smile is all you care about, that\u2019s awesome.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Just be honest, be REALLY real: is your lack of ambition, your disinterest in doing crazy stuff and breaking the rules and crushing your perceived limits, something you REALLY want, or is it because you believe that\u2019s what you deserve?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you actually scared shitless?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Is the soothing scent of spirituality simply convenient for you, and does it serve as a way to comfort you and keep you away from facing your fears and discovering your greatness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you playing small because that’s what you REALLY want, or is the idea that there’s so much more to explore overwhelmingly crippling?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I get it, I really do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For a long time, I completely loathed the \u2018Be the best you that you can be!\u2019 mantras or the \u2018You can become the ultimate version of yourself if you just want it bad enough!\u2019 ideas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I thought all of that was stupid and shallow, flimsy stuff for superficial people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And at the same time, I believed that I was one of the few who are actually REALLY deep.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The one who knew what\u2019s important.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The dude with the inside information.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Haha.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yeah, I was deep for sure, but mostly deeply lost in delusion and anxiety and smallness and passivity and relative comfort.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here\u2019s a thing to consider (and I hope you do that for yourself):<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If this post offends you, there might be a nugget of insight waiting for you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because if you\u2019re really satisfied with a modest, simple life, a life that is more peaceful than really powerful, you couldn\u2019t care less about what I say.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You\u2019d just smile and shrug and slowly walk away, meditating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No, it\u2019s only when you use spirituality as a covert and unconscious way to stay safe, to play small, to avoid going where you\u2019ve never been before, or to feel superior because you\u2019re on your way to transcendence, that reading things like this can fuck you up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Simply because they poke at you and touch you in places where you\u2019d rather not go and hang out for a bit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The unexplored places in you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The places that contain strength and fun and elation and fulfillment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The spots and the talents and the options and opportunities that are just as much a part of you as the safe and fairly satisfying stuff you are so familiar with.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now I want to make clear that I don\u2019t say that one thing is better than the other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not about that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s about giving yourself an honest chance, for once, to see if what you thought you want in life, is really just a way to consolidate and keep the present status quo firmly in place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Maybe it\u2019s time to go beyond that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Maybe it\u2019s time to admit that you DO want the stuff, the money, the shiny things, the excitement, the results, the thriving business, the beautiful house, or whatever it is that comes from expressing the full you, not the anxious, tiny, powerless one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can be part of the deal, all of it!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Of course, you don\u2019t have to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And you also don\u2019t need to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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But what if it turns out you can?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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—<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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(Are you ready to break free from namaste numbness? Are you fed up with being the good spiritual boy or girl sitting on the bench? Would you secretly, desperately like to find out the power you REALLY possess, and hang out in endless opportunity and juicy greatness? Ha! Send me a message <\/a>and let’s have a chat.!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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