{"id":48102,"date":"2022-10-29T09:08:17","date_gmt":"2022-10-29T09:08:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/?p=48102"},"modified":"2022-10-29T09:08:22","modified_gmt":"2022-10-29T09:08:22","slug":"can-you-really-love-everything","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/2022\/10\/29\/can-you-really-love-everything\/","title":{"rendered":"Can you REALLY love everything?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Yesterday I posted<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u2018Why feel good when you can feel love?\u2019<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Maybe you bumped into it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And maybe you got what I was trying to say.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And maybe you (still) have no clue.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here\u2019s what I saw.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Feeling good is a preference.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Love is a choice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You can love without the need to feel good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You can love without the absolute condition of agreeing to something.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You can love as a starting point.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There can still be opinions and judgments and preferences, for sure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Those things make you feel good and they’re part of life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But when you love EVERYTHING, you\u2019re simply open to it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You give it your undivided attention.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter how much you dislike it, you still have a sense of why it\u2019s important or awesome or special, as a crucial part of being alive and having all possible experiences, not as part of your treasured set of Wants and Musts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Loving life doesn\u2019t mean ‘liking everything’.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It doesn’t mean feeling good all the time, per se.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It means being open enough to appreciate the differences, the confusion, the anger, the dullness, and the sadness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not about what you like, because that\u2019s the mind, and it’s just a dense clump of stubborn fucking beliefs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s way more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s before.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s after.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s forever.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And always.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Of course, I\u2019m painting a somewhat ideal picture here.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But this is not about waiting to make that happen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s about<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018Hm\u2026 never thought about it that way, what if I could even love what I don\u2019t like, without the desire to change it or even get rid of it?\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Can you love what\u2019s not within your conditioning, what’s not personally accepted as good or preferred?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Remember: there’s no obligation to like it!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What would happen if you did the loving thing, the open thing, the interested thing, the attention thing?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Could life become a little bit more relaxed, and a little less burdened?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And what could happen after THAT?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Feeling good is just a state of mind, and it\u2019s cool and awesome and yummy and juicy because it feels good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But states of mind come and go.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Loving life can be everything and always.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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—<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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(Photo by @jzoerb, for Unsplash)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Yesterday I posted \u2018Why feel good when you can feel love?\u2019 Maybe you bumped into it. And maybe you got what I was trying to say. And maybe you (still) have no clue. Here\u2019s what I saw. Feeling good is a preference. Love is a choice. You can love without the need to feel good. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":48103,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"off","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":""},"categories":[99,102,97,117,100,105,115,116,113,107,103,112],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/48102"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=48102"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/48102\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":48104,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/48102\/revisions\/48104"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/48103"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=48102"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=48102"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=48102"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}