{"id":48009,"date":"2022-10-03T11:36:41","date_gmt":"2022-10-03T11:36:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/?p=48009"},"modified":"2022-10-03T11:57:04","modified_gmt":"2022-10-03T11:57:04","slug":"the-fear-contract","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/2022\/10\/03\/the-fear-contract\/","title":{"rendered":"The FEAR contract."},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"has-medium-font-size wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>&#8220;No, no, NO, you can&#8217;t be without fear!&#8221; says the mind.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8220;It will keep you safe!&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8220;I will keep you safe!&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It makes sense.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That extra layer of awareness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Like mental CCTV.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">So you eagerly agree and comply.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You enter into an invisible agreement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And this is the deal:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>As long as you believe your thoughts, the mind promises to look out for you.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You start listening, and watching.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You become vigilant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And you begin to avoid things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The mind keeps you on your toes, day in, day out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Just to help you stay away from danger, of course.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It&#8217;s for your own good!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Scanning, searching, predicting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Worrying, hiding, focusing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And what happens?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Feeling unsafe becomes your status quo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Now you&#8217;ve learned to fear the fear.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Stop it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And if the mind says &#8216;you can&#8217;t!&#8217;, well: fuck that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The mind IS the fear.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Stop it now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Break the fucking contract.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8212;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">(Photo by @franku84, for Unsplash)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;No, no, NO, you can&#8217;t be without fear!&#8221; says the mind. &#8220;It will keep you safe!&#8221; &#8220;I will keep you safe!&#8221; It makes sense. That extra layer of awareness. Like mental CCTV. So you eagerly agree and comply. You enter into an invisible agreement. 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