{"id":47997,"date":"2022-10-02T11:50:05","date_gmt":"2022-10-02T11:50:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/?p=47997"},"modified":"2022-10-02T11:50:13","modified_gmt":"2022-10-02T11:50:13","slug":"the-art-of-not-freaking-out","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/2022\/10\/02\/the-art-of-not-freaking-out\/","title":{"rendered":"The Art of Not Freaking Out."},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Maybe you\u2019re looking for the Coach Who Knows Everything.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I totally get that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019m actually quite impressed by that, or them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, sure, it makes sense, if you really believe you NEED to know what to do next, and after that, and a month from now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It feels safe and solid.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It feels like progress in the making.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It feels like the closest thing to control we\u2019ll ever know.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Being with people who have all the answers is soothing and comforting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Having a proven program and knowing what to do next, is encouraging.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Step 1.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Step 2.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And now step 3.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I get that, very much so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But I don\u2019t HAVE that, or offer that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As a matter of fact, I\u2019m the opposite of the Coach Who Knows Everything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019m more like the One Who\u2019s Absolutely Fucking Clueless.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I have no idea what you should do next.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I don\u2019t even know what I should do next.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the thing is: I\u2019m pretty good at not freaking out about it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And maybe that\u2019s what you\u2019re looking for.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not the prefabricated answers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not the framework.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not the steps or the formula.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Just the not freaking out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Taking It All Less Seriously.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like high-fiving the universe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I do seem to know quite well how to live without knowing, and take it from there.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Or being taken from there, I guess.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So maybe you\u2019re interested in talking and learning about that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not more, but less knowing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fewer answers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Less pressure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Less crap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

More peace and simplicity and natural ingenuity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And let life BE the plan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Mail me<\/a> for a chat.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

—<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Photo by @jareddrice, for Unsplash)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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