{"id":47761,"date":"2022-08-22T09:39:05","date_gmt":"2022-08-22T09:39:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/?p=47761"},"modified":"2022-08-22T09:41:01","modified_gmt":"2022-08-22T09:41:01","slug":"life-without-the-crap","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/2022\/08\/22\/life-without-the-crap\/","title":{"rendered":"Life without the crap."},"content":{"rendered":"\n

I wonder if you recognize this (but my guess is that you do).<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let’s say you\u2019re just living your daily life, caught up in heavy problematic thoughts and endless limiting stories, feeling dense and challenged, when this realization suddenly hits you:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

None of this is really important, life is way too precious to waste it on endless worrying about useless and temporary things!!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Out of nowhere, you get an exhilarating sense of all the hours you\u2019ve spent on things that don\u2019t really matter, and the time that may still be available for you on this planet, and somehow you just know there must be a different way to go about this.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Life MUST be lived fully!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s a very promising, even liberating notion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

All of a sudden, you acknowledge the beauty and shortness of human existence, you recall what made you happy in the past, and you fully appreciate the importance of the simpler things like love, connection, beauty, and curiosity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Life should be an amazing adventure, and it doesn\u2019t even have to be about big gestures all the time, because the smaller stuff is just as magical.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s such a waste of time to be angry and frustrated and jealous, and to be constantly concerned with the future or lost in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No more!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What if you simply stop wasting your energy on unimportant stuff, on superficial stuff, on stuff that is not about honoring your wonderful, but short stay on earth?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At that moment it feels good, it\u2019s like a door has opened and light starts pouring in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

More, you need more of that, and you need to drop the endless ruminating and striving and judging and stressing!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And just when you\u2019re almost floating in your new amazing future, a couple of minutes after the first thought hit you, here comes the other side of this realization, and now you become overwhelmed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Where to start?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How do you deliberately love every second of your life?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Shouldn\u2019t you take care of many things before you can even do this?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And how do you actually drop the limiting, habitual mental crap and invite the gratitude and authentic inspiration that can guide you towards fulfillment?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fuck.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s ironic, really.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s ironic because a beautiful aha-moment quickly gets crushed by the same routine that creates all the trouble and constantly grabs your attention, and makes life look like an endless string of problems.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now you start worrying about not worrying anymore, and the idea of traveling through life in a much lighter, more appreciative way, becomes an impossible task, a burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At this moment the mind has fully joined the party and starts throwing questions at you that mess up the delicious, promising, open energy of the moment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Where do you start, what do you do, how do you do it, and what if you do it wrong?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How about other people, your job, and REALITY?!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Within five minutes you went from bad to amazing and back to bad again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Before even starting your amazing new life, the doorway is already blocked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To me, this is just one of those situations that prove the utter powerlessness of logic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if you know very well that you\u2019re wasting valuable time on endless mental wrestling, you keep doing it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even though you know that life is very short, that it\u2019s waiting for you out there to dive in and embrace it and innocently play around with it, you keep thinking small and you stay defensive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You can\u2019t force yourself into appreciation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You can\u2019t fight yourself into joy and contentment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You can\u2019t plan your way into spontaneity and curiosity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And you most certainly can\u2019t think yourself out of a suffocating mental habit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This morning I had the enlightening realization I\u2019m talking about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The \u2018Oh my God, let\u2019s cut the crap and skip the bullshit and start dancing in the street!\u2019.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right after that, I was confronted with the predictable pressure of \u2018Okay, sure, but how to make it work, FAST, before it\u2019s too late and your life is over!\u2019.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I just didn\u2019t buy into that second phase.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because if there\u2019s one thing I\u2019ve seen over and over again, it\u2019s that a liberated life comes from less engagement with thinking, not more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The feeling of openness and happiness you\u2019re looking for (and that is secretly promised by the mind all day long), is not the result of any activity, it\u2019s not a reward for good behavior, and it\u2019s not a future destination.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s here, right here, and that\u2019s a monster of a clich\u00e9, but it\u2019s true.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And I get it if these words drive you crazy, and I\u2019m sorry for stating the obvious, but let me ask you this:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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If it can\u2019t be now, then when?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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—<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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(Photo by @aaqiibrasool, for Unsplash)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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