{"id":47727,"date":"2022-08-20T10:08:06","date_gmt":"2022-08-20T10:08:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/?p=47727"},"modified":"2022-08-20T10:08:11","modified_gmt":"2022-08-20T10:08:11","slug":"what-does-a-changed-life-feel-like","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/2022\/08\/20\/what-does-a-changed-life-feel-like\/","title":{"rendered":"What does a changed life feel like?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Many people say they want their lives to drastically change.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Or at least a substantial part of it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They feel stuck, they feel like they\u2019re wasting precious time, and they simply can\u2019t seem to find the way out, or the way in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And they no longer want that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Makes total sense.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But what always strikes me is how little we actually know about change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What it feels like.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What it entails.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What it would do for our daily lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s an incredibly abstract thing, of course, but when it happens, it’s a million times more impactful than we could imagine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If we reflect on a better life, a more fulfilling life that will be the result of massive change, it seems like we\u2019re looking at a certain image where things are different than before.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s quite factual.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not emotional.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We say things like \u2018I\u2019d love to be able to just do what I want\u2019, but we don\u2019t really know what that means.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I guess we want change because we don\u2019t like what\u2019s going on right now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We want change, but because it\u2019s so intangible, it has no real value in the present moment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For me, this is very clear when people come to me with this big question, this bold goal of radical transformation, and freak out when they hear that it\u2019s probably gonna cost them a couple of thousand bucks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you really think that’s an outrageous amount of money, you simply have no clue what profound change means, what the real impact will be, and what it will do for your existence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not that I blame people or ridicule them, because it\u2019s very clear to me that it\u2019s almost impossible to get a feel for how that changed life would impact them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There\u2019s simply no way of knowing when the only thing you do is think about it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It seems that many people want change because it feels necessary and tempting, but after that everything becomes entirely blank.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This \u2018new life\u2019 mostly sounds like a thing that\u2019s better than the present thing, a compelling but vague concept, and not something that\u2019s actually attainable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s as if we can imagine a 5% improvement, maybe 10%, but not 50%, or, let alone, 300%, because we have no way of creating a real sense of what that would mean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As if our present lives are simply too restricted and don\u2019t allow us the capacity to truly imagine happier, much lighter, more joyful, and way more satisfying, and make those things come to life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Maybe you can compare it to falling in love, something you can read about and think about and dream about all you want, but which will only make sense the moment it strikes you and makes you lose your mind in the most delicious way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most of us simply can\u2019t feel what is possible, what could be waiting out there for us, because we\u2019re stuck in our old ways.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That, automatically and logically, makes it really hard to get a glimpse of a more expansive way of living.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t know what we don\u2019t know, and it\u2019s very difficult to feel what we\u2019ve never felt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, as a coach, one of the hardest but also coolest challenges is to help people consciously feel what they may have never felt before, and guide them to a direct experience of something they don\u2019t even know is possible.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s like exploring what\u2019s around the corner before turning it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And helping them fall in love with life, on the spot.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s the fine art of potential.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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—<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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(Photo by @jackcohen, for Unsplash)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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