{"id":47713,"date":"2022-08-17T07:07:44","date_gmt":"2022-08-17T07:07:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/?p=47713"},"modified":"2022-08-17T07:07:53","modified_gmt":"2022-08-17T07:07:53","slug":"absolute-romantic-certainty","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/2022\/08\/17\/absolute-romantic-certainty\/","title":{"rendered":"Absolute romantic certainty."},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Let\u2019s say there\u2019s a hot new bestseller available.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The book is called \u2018How To Fall In Love With Literally Anybody\u2019.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And it\u2019s exactly that: a guide to deliberately falling in love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

With any person you\u2019d like to fall in love with, no exception.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s a detailed step-by-step manual that tells you what to do, what to feel, and how to do it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It would give you total control over the whole process.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And the claim is that it never fails.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Would you buy it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I mean: would it be of interest to you to stop falling in love by chance (such a messy, unpredictable event), and instead learn to steer yourself successfully into the butterfly-state, exactly when and where you like?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I doubt it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But let\u2019s make it even more interesting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here\u2019s question number two: what if there was a sequel to the book, and now it\u2019s not just about you falling in love with anybody out there, but also about letting anybody out there fall in love with you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018How To Fall In Love With Literally Anybody And Make Them Love You Back.\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Would you like the idea of being able to manipulate another person into being infatuated with you, longing for you, and desiring you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You could MAKE others love you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Would you like that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do you already see yourself sitting on the couch with your favorite movie star?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Or does this make you a bit uncomfortable?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My guess is that you think this is a pretty outrageous idea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because even though it can be very messy and difficult and worrisome and full of uncertainty, it wouldn\u2019t surprise me if you actually fancy the randomness of romantic love, and that you\u2019d consider the introduction of control and manipulation at least a bit off, and probably just very scary or boring.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The lack of power over what happens is actually what makes life interesting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sure, we SEEM to look for control and certainty and accurate predictions all the fucking time, but this crazy existence wouldn\u2019t be the same if we really got that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes I ask people who are very afraid of the future and worry a lot, if they\u2019d be interested in an exact, meticulous description of everything that will happen in their life from this moment on until they die.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So far the answer has been \u2018No\u2019.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Of course it is.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We hate uncertainty but we also know that\u2019s the name of the game.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s a double-edged sword.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s complicated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s scary as fuck.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But it\u2019s also exactly what makes this such an amazing adventure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

—<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Photo by @abdu27, for Unsplash)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Let\u2019s say there\u2019s a hot new bestseller available. The book is called \u2018How To Fall In Love With Literally Anybody\u2019. And it\u2019s exactly that: a guide to deliberately falling in love. With any person you\u2019d like to fall in love with, no exception. It\u2019s a detailed step-by-step manual that tells you what to do, what […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":47714,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"off","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":""},"categories":[102,97,117,100,105,116,113,107,103,112],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/47713"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=47713"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/47713\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":47715,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/47713\/revisions\/47715"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/47714"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=47713"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=47713"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=47713"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}