{"id":47659,"date":"2022-08-07T11:53:13","date_gmt":"2022-08-07T11:53:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/?p=47659"},"modified":"2022-08-07T11:53:18","modified_gmt":"2022-08-07T11:53:18","slug":"exactly-this","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/2022\/08\/07\/exactly-this\/","title":{"rendered":"Exactly this."},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"has-medium-font-size\"><strong>The bad news is:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You can\u2019t change this moment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What\u2019s going on is what\u2019s going on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What\u2019s experienced is what\u2019s experienced.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And that includes judgments about it and resistance towards it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They\u2019re just part of this, not on top of it, not separate from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s just one happening, pretending to be many different things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Even hating this is absolutely perfect, and included.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Just like wanting it to be over, looking around for solutions, picking up the book that always helps, or eating shit just to be distracted.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>All of it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And now for the good news:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You can\u2019t change this moment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But it will change anyway.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Where life seems to be right now, with you in it, feeling the way you feel including every detail: you didn\u2019t do that, you didn\u2019t make that, you didn\u2019t fuck anything up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Life brought you here, as a part of itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For no reason, so it\u2019s not even \u2018supposed to be this way\u2019.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It couldn\u2019t be prevented.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It couldn\u2019t have gone in a different direction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s absolutely brilliant (if it didn\u2019t feel so personal, but that\u2019s also part of it).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>THIS is exactly, purely, completely, totally, and perfectly how this moment is.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Every. Single. Bit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Including the clenched jaw, the fierce discomfort, and the urge to escape.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There\u2019s nothing you could have done to prevent it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nothing you could have changed to push it somewhere else.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Imagine that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>No fault, no blame.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>No you that should be punished.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Just this.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8212;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>(Photo by @chamooomile0, for Unsplash)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The bad news is: You can\u2019t change this moment. What\u2019s going on is what\u2019s going on. What\u2019s experienced is what\u2019s experienced. And that includes judgments about it and resistance towards it. They\u2019re just part of this, not on top of it, not separate from it. It\u2019s just one happening, pretending to be many different things. [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":47660,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"off","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":""},"categories":[99,102,97,117,100,116,113,107,103,112],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/47659"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=47659"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/47659\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":47661,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/47659\/revisions\/47661"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/47660"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=47659"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=47659"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=47659"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}