{"id":47532,"date":"2022-07-26T14:06:18","date_gmt":"2022-07-26T14:06:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/?p=47532"},"modified":"2022-07-26T14:06:24","modified_gmt":"2022-07-26T14:06:24","slug":"relax-nothing-is-under-control","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/2022\/07\/26\/relax-nothing-is-under-control\/","title":{"rendered":"Relax, nothing is under control."},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Have you ever noticed?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Life gives us JUST enough causality to keep believing in personal power.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You try stuff and nothing happens.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You try it again and still nothing happens.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You try once more and, boom, there you go, wow!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What do you remember?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Of course.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018I did this!\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You forget about all the worrying you couldn\u2019t stop (although you tried a million times).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You forget about the nervousness that didn\u2019t make sense but wanted to stick around anyway.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You forget about not being able to manage your futile anger, your deepest cravings, or your urge to complain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You forget about all the proud and shiny New year\u2019s resolutions that got lost somewhere in the first week of January.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You forget about all the times you started something and gave up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You forget about the nights before the mornings where everything would become different, forever, and then didn\u2019t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

None of that is bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s life, constantly showing you opportunities to doubt your control and free will, opening you up for sweet surrender, and at the same time making you forget about all of that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s the most common form of amnesia, the one that keeps the story juicy and exciting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But it hardly ever happens that stuff we want immediately comes about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It almost never happens that we can stop our thinking.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And it\u2019s rare that we get all the people around us to do what we want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There\u2019s really not much personal power.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yet we still feel like we\u2019re doing it, like we\u2019re responsible, and constantly need to find ways to make it all happen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not bad either.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Just how it works.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And just cool to notice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

—<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Photo by @cass4504, for Unsplash)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Have you ever noticed? Life gives us JUST enough causality to keep believing in personal power. You try stuff and nothing happens. You try it again and still nothing happens. You try once more and, boom, there you go, wow! What do you remember? Of course. \u2018I did this!\u2019 You forget about all the worrying […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":47533,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"off","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":""},"categories":[99,102,97,117,100,116,113,107,103,112],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/47532"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=47532"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/47532\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":47534,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/47532\/revisions\/47534"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/47533"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=47532"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=47532"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=47532"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}