{"id":47516,"date":"2022-07-25T11:51:43","date_gmt":"2022-07-25T11:51:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/?p=47516"},"modified":"2022-07-25T11:51:48","modified_gmt":"2022-07-25T11:51:48","slug":"the-power-of-expectations","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/2022\/07\/25\/the-power-of-expectations\/","title":{"rendered":"The power of expectations."},"content":{"rendered":"\n

It seems that expectations have quite a bad rep.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let me give you at least one reason why that\u2019s unfair.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, expectations play a large role in my coaching.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And it\u2019s really simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people who are in a really bad and confused and dark place hear about my history of mental struggle, it wakes something up in them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I can obviously boast an impressive list.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Almost 30 years of alcohol and tobacco and weed addiction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Around 20 years of almost non-stop depression.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And probably 15 years of grotesque, next-level anxiety.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s how it was.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That’s who I was.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But no more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now there’s this, this appreciation of life, this freedom, this lightness, this playfulness, this flow.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Radically different stuff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So it\u2019s doable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Extreme, delicious change CAN happen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And that idea, that notion, that possibility can be very helpful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It sparks hope and a bit of optimism.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It opens up the door to some trust and fresh options.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And of course, sure, that\u2019s just a game the mind plays with us, but it can be a tremendously powerful thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people deeply believe that they\u2019re fucked because they\u2019ve been suffering for such a long time, seriously entertaining the option that it\u2019s merely a painful misunderstanding, can be a huge relief, and the start of (quick) healing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people have heard over and over again that their anxiety is a disease and a brain disfunction, and they simply have to learn to cope with it, getting a clear sense that those claims are simply not true, can lift a tremendous amount of weight.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people are severely addicted and believe they\u2019re simply dealt a bad hand in life, a conscious experience of their habits can change all that negative thinking, and help them quit whatever it is that’s fucking them up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Expectations can pull us out of something that felt solid and unmovable forever.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They can lift us up just high enough, so we can see some light again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They can help us break through a period or even a lifetime of feeling stuck.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And those simple, modest, initial movements, can eventually change worlds.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

—<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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(Photo by @roger3010, for Unsplash)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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