{"id":46575,"date":"2022-04-22T12:06:13","date_gmt":"2022-04-22T12:06:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/?p=46575"},"modified":"2022-04-22T12:29:03","modified_gmt":"2022-04-22T12:29:03","slug":"really-being-where-you-are","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/2022\/04\/22\/really-being-where-you-are\/","title":{"rendered":"Really being where you are."},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Hello!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here\u2019s another insight.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And so another attempt at trying to describe a piece of valuable inner wisdom that is absolutely personal, and covered in feeling.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And subjective.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But let me try.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018You are always exactly where you are.\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Always.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Five minutes ago, and a year from now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you were five and three days, and when you are old and grey (or bald).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In every moment you can always only be where you are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And there is also no way in the world you could have prevented it (although your mind probably begs to differ).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now if that doesn\u2019t sound very spectacular: get it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But for me, it DID feel spectacular.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I somehow felt the release of my involvement, my responsibility, and my constant urge to make changes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It freed me up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I am always where I am, in the situation that I am, and not somewhere else.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Totally accepting that notion means getting rid of the resistance, which makes all the difference in the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if the situation is shitty and painful, if you can dump the \u2018I shouldn\u2019t be here\u2019, \u2018it shouldn\u2019t have happened\u2019 or \u2018What the fuck do I do now!!\u2019, you are in a much, much better place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Exactly where you are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And that will change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like everything does, all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

By itself, actually.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The suffering is always in the resistance, the not-agreeing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The agony is in not wanting to feel what you feel, why foul it anyway.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Good luck with that!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Being where you are, exactly as you are, and accepting that, means creating space.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You simply don\u2019t fight reality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What I felt, I guess, was the realization that I am always in different situations, and that I don\u2019t create them in the first place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I would never choose to be fucked up and anxious and worried.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I would never consciously steer towards a relationship breakup that is ugly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I don\u2019t create all the crap I seem to be caught up in or the people who seem to be in my way, because that would mean I have to make up and produce my life all the time, constantly, just seconds before I experience it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Huh?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Wherever I am, is wherever I drifted towards.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And I will float on like I always do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I know all of this probably sounds pretty clumsy and wordy, but the thing is:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I can somehow surrender to the fact that I always am where I am, it opens up stuff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I don\u2019t waste time and energy on not agreeing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I see everything happen. more than I am lost IN the happening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And for me, that is a very helpful conclusion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So utterly simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

—<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Photo by @shasha333, for Unsplash)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Hello! Here\u2019s another insight. And so another attempt at trying to describe a piece of valuable inner wisdom that is absolutely personal, and covered in feeling. And subjective. But let me try. \u2018You are always exactly where you are.\u2019 Always. Five minutes ago, and a year from now. When you were five and three days, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":46576,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"off","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":""},"categories":[102,97,117,100,116,103,112],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/46575"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=46575"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/46575\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":46579,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/46575\/revisions\/46579"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/46576"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=46575"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=46575"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=46575"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}