{"id":46559,"date":"2022-04-20T10:35:07","date_gmt":"2022-04-20T10:35:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/?p=46559"},"modified":"2022-04-20T10:36:09","modified_gmt":"2022-04-20T10:36:09","slug":"a-reminder-for-the-lost-ones","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/2022\/04\/20\/a-reminder-for-the-lost-ones\/","title":{"rendered":"A reminder for the lost ones."},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Maybe you feel really<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

really<\/p>\n\n\n\n

really<\/p>\n\n\n\n

REALLY bad right now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Maybe you feel<\/p>\n\n\n\n

lost<\/p>\n\n\n\n

down<\/p>\n\n\n\n

worthless<\/p>\n\n\n\n

hopeless<\/p>\n\n\n\n

lonely<\/p>\n\n\n\n

and without a clue.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I feel you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And I won\u2019t insult you with some uplifting one-liners.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But let me point out something that you might be overlooking at this moment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, while reading this, in this exact minute where you are absorbing these words, maybe looking for a way out, some comfort, a tip or a trick (maybe), or a bit of perspective, right now, in the present, you don\u2019t feel just as bad as when you started to read.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not as lost.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not as worried.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not exactly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For a few seconds, your awareness has been aimed at something else, instead of keeping the misery alive and the fire of sorrow burning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For a moment you are not as caught up in the thoughts that make life so crazy and hard.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And you don\u2019t feel as bad, not as lost.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So what am I trying to tell you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is not forever.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because if reading a little blog for a minute or two can take away some of the pain momentarily, if losing your interest in the suffering for a couple of seconds changes your mood (even if it\u2019s a tiny little bit), it means that you are not doomed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are not stuck.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Everything that feels bad is not caused by life or your future, but by whatever story you are so deeply engaged in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It doesn\u2019t mean that the pain isn\u2019t real, but it means that it will not last.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the story changes, which it always does, the dark clouds will lift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s how it works.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Always.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And I know you know that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So this is just a reminder.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

—<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Photo by @jdelrivero, for Unsplash)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Maybe you feel really really really REALLY bad right now. Maybe you feel lost down worthless hopeless lonely and without a clue. I feel you. And I won\u2019t insult you with some uplifting one-liners. But let me point out something that you might be overlooking at this moment. Right now, while reading this, in this […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":46560,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"off","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":""},"categories":[99,102,97,117,100,105,116,113,103,112],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/46559"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=46559"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/46559\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":46563,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/46559\/revisions\/46563"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/46560"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=46559"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=46559"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=46559"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}