{"id":46374,"date":"2022-02-26T12:23:51","date_gmt":"2022-02-26T12:23:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/?p=46374"},"modified":"2022-02-26T12:23:55","modified_gmt":"2022-02-26T12:23:55","slug":"dont-fuck-up-the-moment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/2022\/02\/26\/dont-fuck-up-the-moment\/","title":{"rendered":"Don’t fuck up the moment."},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Stop managing your future misery.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s useless.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You can\u2019t take an advance on whatever pain will come someday.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You can\u2019t bite off small chunks of tomorrow’s sadness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You can\u2019t water down your possible depression.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You can\u2019t feel guilty right now in order to feel less guilty next year.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And although these examples might sound crazy, it\u2019s what we do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s what we do when we downplay our current joy and enthusiasm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we anticipate the end of happiness and deeply fear the disappointment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But by doing that, by trying to not engage fully, we merely fuck up the moment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Being joyful and happy is what will get you through future misery.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Being fully alive is what will keep you grounded and strong and hopeful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You deserve to enjoy whatever comes your way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s healthy and smart and you will not be punished for it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Life doesn\u2019t analyze whatever you feel right now only to burden you with the opposite.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You don’t have to fool life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You don’t have to compensate for anything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Feel good when you feel good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Be happy when you are happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s perfect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

—<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Photo by @p_pixels_p, for Unsplash)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Stop managing your future misery. It\u2019s useless. You can\u2019t take an advance on whatever pain will come someday. You can\u2019t bite off small chunks of tomorrow’s sadness. You can\u2019t water down your possible depression. You can\u2019t feel guilty right now in order to feel less guilty next year. And although these examples might sound crazy, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":46375,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"off","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":""},"categories":[97,96,117,100,116,113,107,103,112],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/46374"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=46374"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/46374\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":46376,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/46374\/revisions\/46376"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/46375"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=46374"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=46374"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=46374"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}