{"id":46331,"date":"2022-02-19T21:21:06","date_gmt":"2022-02-19T21:21:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/?p=46331"},"modified":"2022-02-19T21:21:09","modified_gmt":"2022-02-19T21:21:09","slug":"how-arrogance-made-me-a-great-coach","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/2022\/02\/19\/how-arrogance-made-me-a-great-coach\/","title":{"rendered":"How arrogance made me a great coach."},"content":{"rendered":"\n

About seven years ago I started coaching, or something that looked like it.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

At the time I was still making really good money in advertising, and this coaching gig (I didn’t call it coaching yet) was great as a playful side hustle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A couple of years before that I had quit drinking and left my depressions behind, and now I felt stronger and somehow I was having meaningful conversations with people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I didn’t take it too seriously.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But as things go, it slowly became more appealing to me, more exciting, and more fulfilling.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And when I seriously started to think about a career change, I thought it would be a piece of cake.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was convinced that I was a great coach already.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I knew for sure that shifting from being a copywriter to a professional life-changer would be an overnight thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Boy was I wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because when I made the leap in December 2017 and started shaking the client tree, nothing happened.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had some money saved up, so I could play around for a while, but soon it became apparent that I had to learn many new things and start investing in becoming a household name with a reliable way of doing this thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This would take me years.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Back then I never really thought I wasn’t a good coach though, and because I believed I was already there and that I was coaching at an expert level (I am cringing at that idea now), I kept going.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I simply didn’t realize that I was nowhere near a professional.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thank God for that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here’s the thing: if I’d known back then that it would take me YEARS to become confident and skillful and savvy enough to have sustainable results with clients, again and again, I would have tried to stay in advertising for sure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I would have done everything to stay safe and sound.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And I wouldn’t have had the guts nor the patience to go for my fourth career.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It was my arrogance that blinded me enough to not see how much I still had to learn, to see that I was a total rookie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For years this overconfidence kept me going, until I realized that I had grown tremendously, secretly in the process.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I love this story.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It feels so powerful and deliberate in a way that I could have never come up with.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was deliciously tricked by vanity and self-misconception, only to stay in the game and learn the ropes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is why I’m convinced that you can never miss your calling.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It will find YOU, no matter what.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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