{"id":46199,"date":"2022-02-05T10:12:40","date_gmt":"2022-02-05T10:12:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/?p=46199"},"modified":"2022-02-05T10:12:43","modified_gmt":"2022-02-05T10:12:43","slug":"10-things-happy-people-do-who-cares","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/2022\/02\/05\/10-things-happy-people-do-who-cares\/","title":{"rendered":"10 things happy people do: who cares?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

When it comes to happiness, we’re doing it wrong.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like: 180 degrees wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because most of us believe that happiness is what comes after activity and action and grinding.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We have to behave and think in a specific way to earn it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Happiness is regarded to be the end result, the icing on the cake, but it’s the exact opposite.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Happiness is where it should start.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And it already does (and you’ll find out soon).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are a seeker for happiness and peace of mind and ease of living, you have probably worked your way through tons of books and blogs about these topics.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And they are always prescriptive and highly logical: happy\/relaxed\/confident people do this and this and this, so you should do it too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which makes sense if you look at it from the general perspective of learning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It makes sense to learn from the best when it comes to mastering the piano, basketball, painting, karate, or whatever skills that require repetition and commitment and maybe some talent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hard work often delivers at least some results.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But let me ask you this: how come small children already know how to be happy, and creative, and content, and full of wonder and confidence and playfulness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why is it that these amazing little creatures have all the traits we start longing for later in life, and have them in limitless amounts?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do babies read blogs and bestsellers when we are sleeping, is there a thing where toddlers secretly get up at night and watch YouTube for hours to learn about mindfulness and success and happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You see where I am getting at?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Happiness is what we are born with.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s our natural capacity to be engaged with life, without knowing that we are engaged with life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Without trying.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Without obsessing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is who we are before we learn to doubt who we are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So happiness is about unlearning, not learning more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s about reconnecting to the state of being we were born with.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s already there.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Happy people simply realize this and live this.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And the only reason why they do the things they do is because they are happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s not the other way around.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

When it comes to happiness, we’re doing it wrong. Like: 180 degrees wrong. Because most of us believe that happiness is what comes after activity and action and grinding. We have to behave and think in a specific way to earn it. Happiness is regarded to be the end result, the icing on the cake, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":46200,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"off","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":""},"categories":[97,96,117,100,116,113,103,112],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/46199"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=46199"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/46199\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":46201,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/46199\/revisions\/46201"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/46200"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=46199"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=46199"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=46199"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}