{"id":46118,"date":"2022-01-27T14:30:10","date_gmt":"2022-01-27T14:30:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/?p=46118"},"modified":"2022-01-27T14:46:22","modified_gmt":"2022-01-27T14:46:22","slug":"coaching-for-the-price-of-a-house","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/2022\/01\/27\/coaching-for-the-price-of-a-house\/","title":{"rendered":"Coaching for the price of a house."},"content":{"rendered":"\n

When I meet people for the first time during an explorative session, I often ask a question like:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

‘What would it be worth to you if the pile of problems and challenges you just described wasn’t a problem anymore?’<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They’ve told me how miserable their life is, how much is missing, and how much they long for freedom after many years of being in a bad place, so I want to create some perspective.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And the answer to my question is almost always the same:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

‘Everything.’<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They’d give everything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

An arm, a leg, two legs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Everything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Until I start talking fees.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

All of a sudden, in many cases anyway, their initial idea and willingness of handing over their house in favor of an ever-expanding liberation for the rest of their lives, is gone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Their deep longing for freedom is suddenly smashed by ‘reality’.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And I get that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s a weird and unlogical discrepancy, but I get it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My educated guess is that most people have a hard time believing that REAL and PROFOUND and LASTING change is even possible.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They want it, for sure (oh man they do), but they simply can’t comprehend it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And that is why, as a coach, you can’t just tell them and explain it, but have to make it tangible and real, right there and then.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change has to start in that first conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The sweet scent of freedom needs to be there, because the felt potential of a bright and playful future can flush away the scepsis of the tired old mind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s pretty simple to convince a person on an intellectual level, but that is not where true change happens.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It has to be deeper, much, much deeper.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So you want deep?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let’s talk about going home.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

When I meet people for the first time during an explorative session, I often ask a question like: ‘What would it be worth to you if the pile of problems and challenges you just described wasn’t a problem anymore?’ They’ve told me how miserable their life is, how much is missing, and how much they […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":46119,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"off","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":""},"categories":[99,97,96,117,100,116,113,103,112],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/46118"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=46118"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/46118\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":46121,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/46118\/revisions\/46121"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/46119"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=46118"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=46118"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=46118"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}