{"id":46029,"date":"2022-01-23T15:50:47","date_gmt":"2022-01-23T15:50:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/?p=46029"},"modified":"2022-01-23T18:20:51","modified_gmt":"2022-01-23T18:20:51","slug":"just-trying-to-not-feel-unhappy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/2022\/01\/23\/just-trying-to-not-feel-unhappy\/","title":{"rendered":"You don’t fight an addiction, you replace it with something better."},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Addictions can ruin your life.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

They can turn you into a mindless monster, even.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But they are not a problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Or THE problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Addictions are a fairly helpful solution to something deeper, and that is your unwillingness to be with discomfort.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Really happy and fulfilled people never get hooked, because the temporary surrogate high of the addiction doesn’t really match up to the lasting high of being fully alive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That’s why fighting an addiction is almost always useless.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s simply not sustainable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s just exhausting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So if there’s no real substitute for your habit, you’ll always have to rely on willpower and staying strong, and that is a very fragile concept.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In my vast experience with addiction, I have seen that only true and authentic happiness is a match for our destructive habits.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Happiness is the anchor, the absolute ground that supports us, and without it we’re almost always lost.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like I said: habits are there to help us feel a bit less shitty, to feel a tiny bit less uncomfortable and a bit less engaged with our minds that are never really satisfied.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They are simply a crude attempt at feeling happier.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And that’s why, in order to become unaddicted, we need to fully experience our natural power to be okay no matter what.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Happiness is just another word for that state of mind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Happiness is the antidote to everything we suffer from.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How happy are YOU?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Addictions can ruin your life. They can turn you into a mindless monster, even. But they are not a problem. Or THE problem. Addictions are a fairly helpful solution to something deeper, and that is your unwillingness to be with discomfort. Really happy and fulfilled people never get hooked, because the temporary surrogate high of […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":46067,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"redux-templates_full_width","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"off","_et_pb_old_content":"\n

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Addictions can ruin your life.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

They can turn you into a mindless monster, even.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But they are not a problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Or THE problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Addictions are a fairly helpful solution to something deeper, and that is your unwillingness to be with discomfort.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Really happy and fulfilled people never get hooked, because the temporary surrogate high of the addiction doesn't really match up to the sustainable high of being fully alive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That's why fighting an addiction is almost always useless.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It's simply not sustainable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It's just exhausting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So if there's no real substitute for your habit, you'll always have to rely on willpower and staying strong, and that is a very fragile concept.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In my vast experience with addiction, I have seen that only true and authentic happiness is a match for our destructive habits.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Happiness is the anchor, the absolute ground that supports us, and without it we're almost always lost.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like I said: habits are there to help us feel a bit less shitty, to feel a tiny bit less uncomfortable and a bit less engaged with our minds that are never really satisfied.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They are simply a crude attempt at feeling happier.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And that's why, in order to become unaddicted, we need to fully experience our natural power to be okay no matter what.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Happiness is just another word for that state of mind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Happiness is the antidote to everything we suffer from.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How happy are YOU?<\/p>\n","_et_gb_content_width":""},"categories":[99,102,97,96,117,100,116,113,103,112],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/46029"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=46029"}],"version-history":[{"count":24,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/46029\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":46075,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/46029\/revisions\/46075"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/46067"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=46029"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=46029"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=46029"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}