People I don’t know write to me that their life is completely down the drain, that they have been anxious for twenty years, or that they have felt insecure ever since they were a kid, and they are looking for a solution.<\/p>\n
They want tips.<\/p>\n
Tips, and tricks.<\/p>\n
‘Do you have tips?’, they ask eagerly.<\/p>\n
And I don’t.<\/p>\n
Because there aren’t any, not really.<\/p>\n
There simply are no tips to change habits and beliefs that we have carried around and practiced for ages.<\/p>\n
There are no tricks to simply stop what we’ve been doing forever.<\/p>\n
Tips and tricks are the solutions and answers that look good in a blog or YouTube video, but they don’t mean shit when you are up against serious routines and old patterns.<\/p>\n
Tips and tricks are the first things that get flushed away when life gets hairy and scary and emotions flare up.<\/p>\n
At least, that’s my experience.<\/p>\n
Tips are flimsy promises.<\/p>\n
And that’s why I don’t insult people by sending them a cute list with things they can do.<\/p>\n
Does this mean that people can never change, that they HAVE to stay anxious and addicted and shy and a mere shadow of what they could be?<\/p>\n
Not at all.<\/p>\n
HUGE, dramatic, liberating changes are possible if you know where to look and how to explore.<\/p>\n
You want a really good tip?<\/p>\n
Hire me.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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