{"id":31654,"date":"2021-05-16T09:21:42","date_gmt":"2021-05-16T09:21:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/?p=31654"},"modified":"2021-05-16T09:21:43","modified_gmt":"2021-05-16T09:21:43","slug":"follow-the-light","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/2021\/05\/16\/follow-the-light\/","title":{"rendered":"Follow the light."},"content":{"rendered":"\n

A few minutes ago I was writing a blog about therapy.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

How most mainstream forms of mental health interventions are like trying to paint a giant wall with a cotton swab.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sort of helpful, but really slow and draining.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I kinda liked the analogy, but I didn\u2019t like where it was going.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It didn\u2019t feel good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Criticism has stopped being my thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My favorite and well-used weapons of choice like cynicism and sarcasm and verbal aggression and endless comparison were gently taken away from me over the last couple of years.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For a really long time, they were useful as a way to distance myself from people I didn\u2019t trust (almost every inhabitant of the planet), but they stopped having relevance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They don\u2019t feel good, they don\u2019t feel like ME.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And I stopped appreciating it in others too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This unfolding and recognizing of a less judgmental and negative tendency within me has been both interesting and liberating, and unsettling and confusing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When particular behavior has been a profound part of your human way to go about life, it can be hard to release and change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I am not saying that all the fierce traits I stopped appreciating are bad or \u2018less evolved\u2019 or amoral or anything subjective like that: they just don\u2019t belong to how and who I want to be anymore.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They don\u2019t feel good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And feeling good is my sole purpose in life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because feeling good means I am doing what truly fits me, what inspires me, what makes me happy and fulfilled and satisfied.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Feeling good means I am powerful and creative and I can move mountains.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Amazing shifts happen when I feel good, because feeling good is the universe\u2019s way to tell you straight away \u2018Yeah, right on, do more of this you ridiculously beautiful creature!!\u2019.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, yeah.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I want to rest in joy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To enjoy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And it is the only thing I want to cultivate and live from because I\u2019ve tried the other side and it almost killed me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There\u2019s a light within that guides us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And following it no matter what will help you shed all the shit you don\u2019t need.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The light will shine on everything that is not helpful, that holds you back, that makes you smaller than you truly are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let it paint your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

—<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Photo by @leonseierlein, for Unsplash)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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