{"id":31564,"date":"2021-05-12T09:52:07","date_gmt":"2021-05-12T09:52:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/?p=31564"},"modified":"2021-05-12T09:52:09","modified_gmt":"2021-05-12T09:52:09","slug":"its-not-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/2021\/05\/12\/its-not-you\/","title":{"rendered":"It&#8217;s not you."},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><strong>Here\u2019s a thing that is REALLY cool to know.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Every time I am worried about something, I know I\u2019m in my head.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Every time I feel fearful, hopeless, depressed, or lost, I know I\u2019m in my head.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Every time I feel like shit, I can only be in my head.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And when I\u2019m in my head, I can\u2019t see clear.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Which isn\u2019t helpful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Because clarity is exactly what I need, it\u2019s ALL I need, when I\u2019m feeling worried, fearful, hopeless, depressed or lost.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So instead of endlessly chewing on the problem or the feeling while floating in it, instead of running around in the darkness and trying to find my way out of the thoughts by adding more thinking, I take a step back.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And I realize:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I am in my head right now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This is not my future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This is not my past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This is not even now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It&#8217;s not me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Just relax.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Don\u2019t do stupid things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Don\u2019t go mental.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Don&#8217;t add to the storm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Worry, fear, hopelessness and depressions are just signs, really very helpful hints that try to wake you up from the mental rubbish you seem to be caught in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That&#8217;s all you need to know.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>See the anguish and confusion as a message to become still and aware, to just stop.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That\u2019s all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The recognition is enough.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There\u2019s nothing to do really.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Just know it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Clutter = shitty feeling, shitty feeling = twisted reality, twisted reality = the worst place to find solutions or answers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We are part of an amazing system.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And that is REALLY cool to know.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8212;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>(Photo by @jplenio, for Unsplash)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Here\u2019s a thing that is REALLY cool to know. Every time I am worried about something, I know I\u2019m in my head. Every time I feel fearful, hopeless, depressed, or lost, I know I\u2019m in my head. Every time I feel like shit, I can only be in my head. And when I\u2019m in my [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":31565,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":""},"categories":[99,97,117,100,116,113,107,103],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31564"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=31564"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31564\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":31566,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31564\/revisions\/31566"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/31565"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=31564"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=31564"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=31564"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}