{"id":31276,"date":"2021-04-18T07:18:11","date_gmt":"2021-04-18T07:18:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/?p=31276"},"modified":"2021-04-18T07:18:11","modified_gmt":"2021-04-18T07:18:11","slug":"the-offended-ones-and-what-to-do-about-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/2021\/04\/18\/the-offended-ones-and-what-to-do-about-it\/","title":{"rendered":"The Offended Ones (and what to do about it)."},"content":{"rendered":"
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How do you make sure nobody ever gets offended?<\/span><\/h3>\n<\/div>\n
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You don\u2019t.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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You can\u2019t.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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You could try living in a cage and not say anything for ten years, but some person would still consider that \u2018the easy way out\u2019 and hate you for it.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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You could try and please the whole world, but some people will think you\u2019re weak and ridiculous, and that WILL piss them off.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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You can be an asshole or a saint or something in between, but somehow someone always will be able to find something that isn\u2019t to their liking.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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And express that.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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That\u2019s what most people do.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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They suffer from their thoughts and make the world responsible for the pain.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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They feel uncomfortable and confused and want something or someone to blame, instead of working out what could be done, or changed, or learned.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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The thing is: you can\u2019t control people\u2019s moods and worldviews and whatever is going on in their minds that they are totally willing to blame you for.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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We will never be able to be the person everybody likes, because the person everybody is supposed to like is despised by many.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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It\u2019s never perfect.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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People will find fault.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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People will be offended.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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So is there NOTHING you can do?<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Well, no.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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There IS a thing.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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And it\u2019s incredibly powerful.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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It\u2019s having the intention to live an enlightened life.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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To be sincere and kind and genuine and autonomous.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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It\u2019s about coming from a place of wonderous space and positivity and empathy and peace, and not engage in the next ego war.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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It\u2019s about being absolutely sure that you have done everything you can to keep things to yourself, to be responsible for your actions and feelings, and to live by the rule that you only treat people the way you\u2019d like to be treated.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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You\u2019ll have to learn to love more than you ever thought was possible.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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It\u2019s a huge responsibility, but it will be liberating.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Because when you come from true peace of mind, if everything you do is born from wanting to do the right thing, you will know that you have done the best you can.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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I guarantee that you will STILL find people who find you insulting in whatever way they can come up with, but at least you\u2019ll know it\u2019s 100% them.<\/em><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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It\u2019s up to you.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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What a powerful notion.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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\u00a0<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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—<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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(Photo by @andrewtneel, for Unsplash)<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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How do you make sure nobody ever gets offended? You don\u2019t. You can\u2019t. You could try living in a cage and not say anything for ten years, but some person would still consider that \u2018the easy way out\u2019 and hate you for it. You could try and please the whole world, but some people will […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":31277,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":""},"categories":[97,117,100,116,113,107,103],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31276"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=31276"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31276\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":31278,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31276\/revisions\/31278"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/31277"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=31276"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=31276"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=31276"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}