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When<\/span> you drink because you drink.<\/span><\/h3>\n<\/div>\n
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When you drink because you don\u2019t want to drink, because you want to quit and clean up your act, but you just don\u2019t know how.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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When the brain starts to get used to the habit, becomes a fan, and conspires against you, creating the images, the craving, the solution that is so simple and so close.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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When it\u2019s like you\u2019re living Groundhog Day, trying to drown what happened yesterday with the activity that will cause the exact same problem tomorrow.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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The Cycle of Hell.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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You don\u2019t want to, but what else is there to do?<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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You fucking hate it, but something inside of you loves the temporary forgetting just that tiny bit more.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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When the alcohol no longer brings you anything, really, but you still try to get back to the old days, the old feeling, the old sloppy joyful haze.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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\u2018Am I an alcoholic?\u2019, you wonder, and you know the answer.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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You know that the answer is not about \u2018yes\u2019 or \u2018no\u2019, but how it keeps dragging you back into the thick, miserable mist.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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You promise yourself to stop, but you don\u2019t.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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You don\u2019t really sleep anymore.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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You don\u2019t connect anymore.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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You don\u2019t dream anymore, not really.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Where is the exit on the treadmill?<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Where is the open window in the dark?<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Where\u2019s the light?<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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For me, it was the second of sobriety that turned into a minute.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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It was the craving voice in my head that I learned to first fight, then accept, and then ignore.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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It was about the moments that I didn\u2019t give in, and the moment that followed.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Quitting the addiction was about learning to live right now.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Because only right now, I could stand my ground against the urge to drink.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Right now I could say \u2018no\u2019 and stick to it (just for this moment).<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Right now was all I needed to get to the next right now.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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And I got stronger.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Clarity returned.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Hope emerged.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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And when I found out that I hadn\u2019t really developed any emotional skills after age 14, 15, I took the right now to work on that.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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That too.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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There was so much I had neglected.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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But it worked.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Because right now I could change a little bit.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Right now was comprehensible, doable, livable.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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And that finally brought me here.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Still living right now.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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The wrinkled, happy butterfly.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Change beyond recognition.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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And so can you.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Start right now.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Stop right now.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Right, now.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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\u00a0<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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—<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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\u00a0<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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(Photo by @avec_noir, for Unsplash)<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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