It goes like this:<\/p>\n
I come across somebody who proclaims to relinquish something from now on, or take up a specific habit.<\/p>\n
They stop drinking coffee, quit social media for a while, throw out sugar, start yoga or running or a regime of cold morning showers, pick up a minimalist lifestyle, make long walks in nature, or write an hour a day to create their new book.<\/p>\n
And whenever I read something like that, I felt guilty, even envious.<\/p>\n
Guilty that I wasn\u2019t doing (or not-doing) that.<\/p>\n
And envious because, well, because they were.<\/p>\n
There\u2019s this extremely subtle idea that they now do something I should also be doing, that they might advance away from me with dazzling speed, that they\u2019ll have magical benefits that I don\u2019t have, and that I\u2019m wasting my life not doing (or quitting) the same thing… while I could have.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s always something in the realm of \u2018self-development\u2019 or health, either physical or mental.<\/p>\n
And it\u2019s always fucking weird and ridiculous and nonsensical.<\/p>\n
I\u2019ve been aware of this unpleasant tendency for a couple of years, and because of that and because I hated it and worked on it, it looks like I\u2019ve dissolved most of the programming around it, and that is very liberating.<\/p>\n
In many ways.<\/p>\n
Because the thing is: whenever I had my \u2018Shit, I should do be doing that!\u2019-experiences, I always really disliked the person who was involved.<\/p>\n
It was as if they were about to leave my dimension and upgrade to a new and WAY better one, and I was left behind, doing nothing, being the failure still drinking coffee, eating sugar, posting dumb and useless shit on social media, or living an un-minimized life.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s one of those things that was ready to go, and it did.<\/p>\n
So how does that make you feel?<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
–<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
(Photo by @willianjusten, for Unsplash)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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