{"id":30801,"date":"2020-04-03T12:53:32","date_gmt":"2020-04-03T12:53:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/?p=30801"},"modified":"2020-04-03T12:53:32","modified_gmt":"2020-04-03T12:53:32","slug":"the-uselessness-of-tips-and-tricks","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/2020\/04\/03\/the-uselessness-of-tips-and-tricks\/","title":{"rendered":"The uselessness of tips and tricks."},"content":{"rendered":"
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Tips and tricks.<\/span><\/h3>\n<\/div>\n
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People always ask for them.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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\u2018What do I do if this or that happens?\u2019<\/em><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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\u2018How do I deal with people with this kind of behavior?\u2019<\/em><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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\u2018What\u2019s the solution for those times when I freak out\/feel like shit\/wanna indulge in my addiction?\u2019<\/em><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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\u2018If I walk into this situation next month, how should I respond?\u2019<\/em><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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\u2018What do I DO to feel more relaxed, to be more creative, to change the way I do things once and for all (because the way I do things right now feels so desperately inadequate and stale and useless)?\u2019<\/em><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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\u2018What\u2019s the trick that will get me into eternal freedom and bliss?\u2019<\/em><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Yeah right.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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When it comes to truly important stuff, ditch the tips and the tricks and the juicy soundbites.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Because they don\u2019t do shit, not really.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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They are general solutions for general problems, and people simply don\u2019t have general problems: they only ever get lost in utterly personal and deeply intimate issues.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Tips and tricks are -at best- the virtual band aids for a temporarily messed up mind, the reasonable ideas that sound good and valuable in the moment, but dissolve to unknown places as soon as crisis knocks on the door.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Tips and tricks are nothing more than things that make sense whenever there\u2019s enough mental space for things to make sense (which isn\u2019t generally true for moments when we need solutions the most).<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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They look good and smell good and s\u00e9ll good, until the mind comes up with its dark, twisted, highly inventive or solidly repetitive yet poisonous stuff, and we get blown away in a second.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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No one who\u2019s worried sick about a lack of clients will remember tip number five from a blog that promised \u2018Seven things successful people do before breakfast!\u2019<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Not a single person in the world will change in a profound and lasting way by following the six steps that somebody else took.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Tips and tricks are just food for the hungry personal mind.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Soothing bullet points following a clickbait headline.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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But \u2018doing\u2019 is hardly ever the solution when it comes to fundamental, sustainable wellbeing.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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You can\u2019t DO yourself into a shift in consciousness or a state of peacefulness.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Doing is what the intellect considers to be useful, because it helps projecting a mental image of effectiveness.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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The mere IDEA of future results sometimes slows down the raging thought system for a while, tricking us into freedom.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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And that\u2019s the best you can expect.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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My tip?<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Have a clueless day!<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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