{"id":30482,"date":"2019-12-15T12:07:50","date_gmt":"2019-12-15T12:07:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/?p=30482"},"modified":"2019-12-15T12:07:50","modified_gmt":"2019-12-15T12:07:50","slug":"the-missing-piece","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/2019\/12\/15\/the-missing-piece\/","title":{"rendered":"The missing piece."},"content":{"rendered":"
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Do you ever have the idea that there\u2019s something you still don\u2019t see?<\/span><\/h3>\n<\/div>\n
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You\u2019ve been trying so hard and working your ass off and life DID get better and most of the shit that seemed to permanently reside in your world has disappeared.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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But.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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But..<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Sometimes it still feels like there\u2019s a tiny piece of the puzzle that slipped under the table, unbeknownst to you.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Most of the time you don\u2019t really miss it and the puzzle is so ridiculously big that you never really see the end of it, but it seems complete enough.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Yet sometimes doubt creeps in.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Puzzle piece panic.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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What if there\u2019s this almost invisible missing fragment of wisdom that finally seals the deal?<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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What if I\u2019m still doing something wrong, and how come I don\u2019t feel capable of taking all the hints that life is throwing in my face?<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Are there still lessons to learn, things that are blatantly obvious but just not to me?<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Is the fact that I\u2019m not constantly happy and content and peaceful (although it\u2019s ten million times better than it used to be) a sign that I need to learn 0.3 or 2 or 5% more to find solid ground once and for all?<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Just. This. Last. Hurdle.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Do you ever feel like that?<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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I have it sometimes.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Actually, I have it right now.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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The nagging sense that I\u2019m overlooking something.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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A vital thing, of course.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Something that will connect all the dots, ALL of them, that will finally open the gates to\u2026 well, I don\u2019t actually know.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Because the thing is: I have been here before, many many times.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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I’ve had it before, this unpleasant experience of being incomplete, or at least not being compl\u00e9tely complete.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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But what I am ultimately looking for is not a thing, but the dissolvement of the missing itself.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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What seems to be missing is not a thing, but what the perceived lack of wholeness tastes like.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Because there\u2019s nothing really missing, except for the clarity that that\u2019s the simple truth.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Sometimes there\u2019s no amount of (moderately) clever, reflective blogs I can write that is able to snap me out of this conundrum.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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And sometimes I only need \u00f3ne to see through it again.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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This was the one.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Do you ever have that?<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Do you ever have the idea that there\u2019s something you still don\u2019t see? You\u2019ve been trying so hard and working your ass off and life DID get better and most of the shit that seemed to permanently reside in your world has disappeared. But. But.. Sometimes it still feels like there\u2019s a tiny piece of […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":30483,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":""},"categories":[97,117,100,116,103],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30482"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=30482"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30482\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":30484,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30482\/revisions\/30484"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/30483"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=30482"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=30482"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=30482"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}