One\n of the most fascinating and frustrating things of being a human \ncreature, is our innocent and sometimes very subtle arrogance. We always\n seem to know when and how stuff should happen, what it means, if it\u2019s \ngood or bad, and if we\u2019re on schedule or rather way behind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It\u2019s\n a very common thing to do, this constant analyzing and comparing with \nour (unconscious) blueprint of life, this checking against the many \nscenarios that float around in our mind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But at the same time it doesn\u2019t make sense at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Seeing through this tendency deeper and deeper, has made my life tremendously more playful and joyful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I\n used to make up that 5 shitty coaching sessions meant that I was \nforever lost and totally off track, and when I reached out on social \nmedia with a great offer and nobody responded, my career was over.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n I\n made up that I had to be \u2018successful\u2019 within a year\/two years\/three \nyears (it changed along the way, but it looked still very real and \nimportant).<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n I\n made up how much people would have to be impacted by me, how much I had\n to earn in a specific amount of time (which didn\u2019t happen, of course, \nand freaked me out), that I had to like everybody on the planet (because\n we are all one, one love, you know what I mean), and that life would \nhave to unfold exactly the way I planned.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n I made up that I had to know exactly what I wanted from life all the time, and then had to get it no matter what.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n I\n made up SO many rules and goals and amounts and results and shoulds, \nthat there was no way on earth that I could ever be satisfied or \nfulfilled.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n And I just didn\u2019t realize what was going on, why I felt so miserable and insecure and unsatisfied most of the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I\n didn\u2019t see that it was my conditioned mind that came up with the \nprojections and the predictions, and made them into a solid and very \nharsh truth. I didn\u2019t understand that all the pain and self-criticism \nand feelings of inadequacy, were only caused by not aligning with \nreality, with higher Self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Life\n is unfolding, period. That\u2019s the only thing we can be sure of. And \nsometimes it does -kinda- what we want and hoped for, and many times it \ndoesn\u2019t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This\n doesn\u2019t mean that we failed, that we\u2019re fucked, that it\u2019s time to cut \nour losses and slide back into anonymity and smallness. It\u2019s got NOTHING\n to do with who we are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It just means our predictions and expectations suck.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Create\n all the plans in the world if they excite you and if you like to play \naround with them, but don\u2019t get attached to the outcome too much. It\u2019s \njust not helpful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n There are no rules, so play like there\u2019s no tomorrow.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Everything is good.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" One of the most fascinating and frustrating things of being a human creature, is our innocent and sometimes very subtle arrogance. We always seem to know when and how stuff should happen, what it means, if it\u2019s good or bad, and if we\u2019re on schedule or rather way behind. It\u2019s a very common thing to […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":30087,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":""},"categories":[97,96,117,100,105,113,103],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30086"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=30086"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30086\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":30088,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30086\/revisions\/30088"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/30087"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=30086"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=30086"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=30086"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}